by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on July 11th, 2022

Have you ever wondered how a person transforms into a psychotherapist? Are you interested in how the counselling psychology movement got its start?

In this interview, Joseph describes his process of becoming a Vancouver Registered Psychotherapist and shares some insights and challenges his therapeutic ancestors also faced while learning how to best facilitate emotional and psychological growth in others.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dqYrSQmo7UI

by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on May 19th, 2022

Did you know that May 6, 2022, marked Sigmund Freud's 166th birthday?

Would we have psychotherapy as we know it today if it weren't for Sigmund Freud?

Imagine if he came back for a day. What would you say to him?

Here are four mental health professionals talking to Freud on his 166th birthday as if he were alive today.

by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on March 12th, 2022

If you developed feelings for your doctor or another health practitioner, read this article before you decide to take any action:

Asking For A Friend: I have a crush on my doctor



by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on December 10th, 2021

With the holiday season upon us, you might be dreading family gatherings. Old wounds might be open again, and you might feel you are being bruised again. If you feel that way, this article might give you some ideas for how to approach your next family gathering:

https://www.healthing.ca/advice/advice-i-hate-family-gatherings/

by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on October 6th, 2021

Taking your phone to the bathroom? Don't be embarrassed. You are not alone. A better question is, what are the consequences of that action? Find out what mental health professionals think about the subject in this post:

https://www.healthing.ca/advice/phone-bathroom-germs

by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on August 26th, 2021

If you or your family member has a problem biting their nails, the advice in this article might help:

https://www.healthing.ca/advice/1629068

by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on March 3rd, 2021

Panic attacks can feel incredibly scary, but they can be managed. Here are a few tips on how to help you deal with your panic attacks:

https://www.healthing.ca/wellness/mental-health/advice-help-i-keep-waking-up-in-a-panic

by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on January 25th, 2021

If you are wondering whether your, or somebody' else's, repetitive behaviour is a sign of OCD, this article might help shed some light:

https://healthing.prod.postmedia.digital/opinion/advice/advice-my-sister-in-law-wont-stop-taking-showers/wcm/a8a95c5c-d079-4675-84ec-91cb95589ef7

by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on August 17th, 2016

Every time you start a conversation with someone, they're asking you to listen to them.

A therapist not only listens carefully to what a person says but also pays close attention to communication that may be surfacing from a person's UNPAST. 

What's UNPAST?

The UNPAST is a blend of unresolved conflicts and emotions that occurred in the past but still influence how a person feels, thinks and behaves in day to day living.

Here are some examples. 

The next time you have a conversation with someone, ask yourself the following questions:

1) Do the emotions this person is expressing seem excessive or over the top?

2) Is the person talking about a sensitive matter but showing little or no emotion?

3) Do they seem overly critical, harsh, aloof or uncaring with you or to themselves?

4) While listening to them, do you feel like if you say the wrong thing they'll lash out at you? 

Or

5) Do they seem open, expressive, approachable and reasonable, given their circumstance?

If the answer is yes to any of the first four questions, chances are the person you're listening to is strongly being influenced by their UNPAST. 

If the answer to question five is yes, then it's likely that the person speaking is present enough and able to separate the past from the present, which is an essential ingredient to working through ANY challenge.  

Learning to spot the UNPAST when it surfaces, or even just keeping the concept in mind, can help you become a better and more compassionate listener. 

When a person's UNPAST does surface, it's often a signal that they're needing you to be kind, patient and gentle with them.    

The better you become at responding to these signals, the more people will feel safe and comfortable with you, and in the world. 

Special Thank you to Dr. Dominique Scarafone for coining the term "UNPAST".   

​Photo credit: gareth1953 Cataract Creating Chaos via Visual Hunt / CC BY

by Joseph Eliezer, Vancouver Counsellor & Psychotherapist on August 1st, 2016

​People often come to therapy thinking the therapist will solve their problems for them. Truth is, therapists don't do that. 

Therapists help people to see their problems differently, enabling them to make better choices and experience different outcomes. 

Photo credit: Nanagyei via Visual Hunt / CC BY